One of the interesting things about getting married is the reactions you get running into people that didn’t know. For example, when I am walking around with my wife and she runs into someone she used to work with, or someone she hasn’t seen in a long time, I’ll frequently be left out of the conversational loop as they catch up. I don’t mind this, as I have terrible facial recognition skills and trying to recall people or be reintroduced takes too much time. I’d rather just get filled on the details later and see if my listening skills have improved by hearing their conversation.

While I’m standing around, eventually the person will ask, "Hey, so who is this guy walking around with you? Your boyfriend?"

This has happened four or five times in the past week. My wife got asked if I was her boyfriend after she asked me advice on some shoes she was trying on. I got asked if she was my friend after I got my haircut and shampoo at my salon. I got hit on in a bar by some drunk woman that didn’t know we were a couple when I had sat next to my wife the whole night. One of our apartment neighbors didn’t know we were married either. Whenever I meet new people they tend to be a little surprised when I introduce us.

It happened at a wedding I attended with foreigners as well. It’s not just Korean people that are surprised.

Rarely has someone guessed we are married if they didn’t already know. It’s not like we are an unlikely couple in any way I can discern. We both speak English and Korean to each other, she calls me the Korean equivalent of "Honey" or "Sweetheart" when we are out. Of course, that’s because people like to use titles here instead of names whenever possible. It’s not a disgustingly cute thing in this case, but it is rather common with married and unmarried couples.

We both wear wedding rings all the time. We usually hold hands when walking around. Short of wearing matching clothing at all times (WHICH PEOPLE DO HERE! GAH!), there is nothing more we can do to scream, "We are a couple! Really!"

We are thinking of getting a sign or something.